Today my realtor and assigned project manager had a few contractors come by to look a the apartment to then be able to put a proposal and quote to provide us all with, and then me to make a decision who to go with. As I was going through the place with each of them, asking question, saying what I also wanted to do with the place and why etc…, it hit me, maturity moment. Here I was making major decisions about my life, my future etc…really trusting Holy Spirit to guide me. No hand holding needed. I realized that grown up and mature are not the same. Grown up is about a number, age, how physically adult you look. That means nothing in terms of maturity. Maturity is about choice, decision, responsibility, and the realm of spirituality faith along with works, with discernment.

It’s important in ourselves, in others to understand the difference. Even as parents, one should strive to steer one’s children to maturity. One can be 30 and still act, and behave like a rebel teen, irresponsible, no awareness of how decisions now impact many tomorrows, or the lives of others. It is important to have this awareness etc…When we have a society full of greedy, rebellious teens never ending society breaks down, can’t survive. Nations, communities, families, businesses can only survive if there are mature individuals at the helm. Another way we can determine maturity is based on what type of relationships we have, and how stable they are. If we have lots of acquaintances, but no real close friends that they can lean on us in tough times, we on them, with whom we can give and receive tough love when necessary, maturity may be lacking. Part of maturity is understanding it is all about quality over quantity. Having loads of friends come and go, but no real stable relationships, says a lot, and I don’t only mean of the romantic kind. I have also realized that not enabling bad behavior of others, drawing lines, boundaries and sticking to them is another sign of maturity, even with myself. Good financial planning, while still allowing for some spontaneity is also a mature thing. As I plan for a new life, remodeling my coop, selling it, buying a new place etc…take full responsibility for choices, I realize I have truly entered the realm of maturity and it feels great.

Remember, maturity is not about a number or how many birthdays you’ve had, but about your ability to choose, decide etc… and do so wisely, as well as set up healthy boundaries and stick to them, even with yourself, spending etc…